A Room Called Remember

“The time is ripe for looking back...and trying to figure out where we have come from and where we are going to, for sifting through the things we have done and the things we have left undone for a clue to who we are and who, for better or worse, we are becoming. But again and again we avoid the long thoughts….We cling to the present out of wariness of the past. And why not, after all? We get confused. We need such escape as we can find. But there is a deeper need yet, I think, and that is the need—not all the time, surely, but from time to time—to enter that still room within us all where the past lives on as a part of the present, where the dead are alive again, where we are most alive ourselves to turnings and to where our journeys have brought us. The name of the room is Remember—the room where with patience, with charity, with quietness of heart, we remember consciously to remember the lives we have lived.” 
― Frederick Buechner, A Room Called Remember: Uncollected Pieces

I'm quiet here. Afraid of saying too much. I feel the weight of all that's left unsaid. I know you know. We always heard each other best in the silence. I don't make this place my home - I want you to know that. There are other rooms filled with light and sound called Here and Now and Present where I'm busy, happy and content most of the time. Most of the time. This room called Remember - it's where I used to live, we used to live, in another life. I see your shadow on the wall sometimes - a ghost drifting through. You write your name in the dust on the hearth - one that makes my heart sing: friend.

Believing in the promise

It was long ago. The wind rattled the windows and the rain spat against the panes of  glass of a little chapel by the sea. It was wild out but it was quiet within. I wasn't sure what I was doing there except he'd asked me to go with him so I had. He was looking for answers, trying to find some peace in his heart about the future and where he was headed. Mine was broken. I wasn't looking for anything except a way out and in more ways than one. Someone was singing and it was haunting and beautiful and I understood it more than I ever could the preaching and the prayers. Deep called to deep in the roar of the waterfall where it all turned to water and I ducked my head to hide the tears. When I looked up again there was a man standing right in front of me. I didn't know who he was, he was a complete stranger but he had a kind face and when he spoke his voice was gentle. He said that Heaven had a plan for me but he couldn't tell me what it was because I would say it wasn't for me, that I would run from it. Instead he told me about a pair of old balance scales he'd seen in a dream. They were blackened and disused but before his eyes they were polished up and made like new.
Over twenty years have come and gone since then and I still don't know if his words were true, if his vision has come to pass. I'm still waiting on my Daniel. I've tried interpreting it myself many times but maybe it's not about me understanding the promise but believing it.
The friend I was with that night, the moments of his life were swiftly running out although neither of us knew it then. A few days later we took a walk along an old railway track and decided to untangle our lives from each other's. It was a relief to both of us. The sun was setting behind and the whole sky above was aflame. He stopped to take a picture and I took one in my mind's eye- his dark silhouette against the bright falling day. When I turned to walk on, I sensed his journey was almost done and he would not follow. A few years later he called just before my wedding to wish me well and to say he was sorry he couldn't be there but a bone marrow transplant was a little more pressing. I promised I'd visit him soon. On return from my honeymoon I got the news that he'd died.
He had so many dreams and aspirations and was just four months married himself when death came. I don't understand why and I sometimes get lost in that. He had an unshakeable faith in promise and was forever trying to dispel my unbelief. There was a song by Marc Cohn he would play me again and again as if he knew I would need to carry it down through the years...

Let's go down to the sound tonight
Tide is low and we can walk on water
Reel me in under that starry light
Just like a fisherman's daughter

Baby when the bands and the barkers go home
They say that Venus she rises from out of the foam
She dances on air and laughs at the moon
And watches young lovers in fiery dunes

So are you willing to wait for the miracle
Willing to wait it through
Are you willing to wait for the miracle
Or don't you believe they're true?

There's an old man sitting by the side of the pier
He's got his cross and his camera and his bottle of beer
He just sits all day and all through the night
Praying for a vision or a Heavenly light

'Cause he's willing to wait for the miracle
Willing to wait it through
He's willing to wait for the miracle
What else is he gonna do?
What else is he gonna do yeah?
Now me I don't need no Heavenly sign

'Cause I got the water and the wine

But baby please let your love light shine
'Cause we're all gonna meet our maker sometime

That's why I'm willing to wait for the miracles
Willing to wait them through
I'm willing to wait for the miracles
But I just can't wait for you

Just can't wait for you
Let's go on down to the sound tonight
And walk on water, walk on water
Walk on water, walk on water, walk on water

 

PROMISE

I don't have much faith when it comes to Promise - either in the assurance or expectation kind. Has it always been that way or has it been a slow ebbing away over time? I'm not sure if  I know the answer.  
The word rattles me somehow.  It wasn't what I was expecting for my One Word for 2014. She tumbled in all bright and shiny and I was enthusiastic and acceptant at first. Then I started to eye her with suspicion, past grievances came to mind and soon I was prickling with doubt and cynicism. I tried to push her aside, asked for another word - it came back swiftly: WRITE.
Promise - she isn't going away. She's here to make something or break everything.